Skip to Content

Teaching Your Children the Importance of Giving Back at Christmas

Christmas is a time of joy, family, and giving, but it’s also an opportunity to instill valuable life lessons in children about the importance of kindness, generosity, and helping others. While receiving gifts is exciting for kids, teaching them to focus on the spirit of giving back can foster empathy, compassion, and gratitude. Here are some thoughtful ways to help your children understand the importance of giving back during the holiday season.

little girl giving a gift

1. Lead by Example

Children learn a lot by observing the actions of their parents and caregivers. If you want to instill a giving spirit in your children, it’s important to model that behavior yourself. Show them that giving isn’t just something you do during the holidays but an essential part of life.

Ways to lead by example:

  • Volunteer as a family: Do community service together, whether it’s serving meals at a shelter, participating in a charity event, serving at a soup kitchen, or helping with a local food drive. Your children will learn that giving back is an activity that brings the family together and benefits the community.
  • Talk about your giving: Discuss why you support certain causes, make donations, or volunteer, and then explain how your efforts help others. When children see that giving back is important to you, they are more likely to see it as a value worth adopting.
  • Involve them in your giving decisions: Whether it’s selecting a charity to donate to or deciding how to spend family time during the holidays, involve your children in the conversation. This helps them feel a sense of ownership and responsibility toward helping others.

2. Encourage Acts of Kindness

Giving back doesn’t always have to involve money or material donations. Teaching your children to perform small acts of kindness can be just as impactful. Helping neighbors, showing kindness to strangers, or offering support to someone in need are simple ways to cultivate generosity in everyday life.

Ideas for acts of kindness:

  • Shovel a neighbor’s driveway: If you live in an area that gets snow during the winter, encourage your kids to help elderly neighbors by shoveling their driveways or walkways. Always ask first. 
  • Make holiday cards for others: Help your children create handmade holiday cards to deliver to neighbors, teachers, or residents of a nursing home. It’s a thoughtful gesture that can brighten someone’s day.
  • Pay it forward: Teach your kids about the concept of “paying it forward” by buying a hot chocolate for someone in line behind them or donating toys they’ve outgrown to a child in need.
handmade holiday cards

3. Give Back Through Gifts

While children often look forward to receiving gifts, the holiday season is also a perfect time to teach them about giving to others, especially those who may not have as much. Encouraging your kids to think about how they can give gifts to others—whether through charity or personal gestures—can foster a deeper understanding of generosity.

Ways to give back through gifts:

  • Donate toys: Encourage your children to go through their toys and select ones in good condition that they no longer use to donate to a local charity or toy drive. Explain that their donations will help make another child’s Christmas special.
  • Choose gifts with a purpose: When buying gifts for friends or family, look for products that support charitable causes, such as fair-trade items or gifts where proceeds go to a charity. You can explain how the purchase supports a bigger cause, teaching your children about ethical and thoughtful giving.

4. Create a Giving Tradition

Establishing holiday traditions centered around giving can help your children see it as a natural and fun part of the Christmas season. These traditions can become something they look forward to each year and carry with them as they grow.

5. Teach Them About Charitable Giving

Teaching your children about charitable giving involves more than just handing over money. Help them understand how their contributions can make a tangible difference in the lives of others and that every act of giving, no matter how small, is valuable.

How to teach children about charitable giving:

  • Set aside money for charity: Encourage your children to set aside a portion of their allowance for holiday giving purposes. Let them choose where they want to send the money and explain how even small amounts can make a big impact.
  • Research charities together: Explore different charitable organizations as a family and let your children learn about the work they do. This helps them make informed choices about where to give and why it’s important to support specific causes.
  • Teach them about philanthropy: Share stories of famous philanthropists or celebrities who give back, like Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, or their favorite athletes and artists. This can inspire them to see giving as a lifelong value, not just a holiday tradition.

6. Reflect on the True Meaning of Christmas

In the thick of the excitement of gifts and festivities, take time to reflect as a family on the true meaning of Christmas. Emphasize that the holiday is about love, kindness, and spreading joy—not just receiving presents. When children understand that Christmas is about more than material things, they’re more likely to adopt the spirit of giving.

Author

Get freebies, recipes, crafts, printables, and more straight to your inbox!